242: why you skip your calendar (and how to fix it)
Sep 9, 2025
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The Power of Consistency: Why Boring Habits Build a Better Life
Consistency isn’t glamorous. It’s not the flashy business hack or the secret fitness trick. But it is the key that unlocks everything—from health to business growth to relationships.
Recently, I was coaching an entrepreneur who was struggling to be consistent with his workouts. His calendar was full of time blocks labeled “workout,” yet he skipped them constantly. The real problem wasn’t time—it was the way he saw the habit.
That’s where reframing came in. Instead of “workout,” we labeled it Life Extension Modality. Why? Because his ultimate goal wasn’t just fitness—it was longevity. He wanted to be healthy enough to play with his grandkids decades from now. Suddenly, skipping a workout wasn’t skipping a gym session—it was stealing from his future self.
Reframe for Consistency
If you want to stay consistent, you need to connect your daily habits directly to your bigger goals. Here’s the strategy I use with clients:
Define your goals clearly. Do you want longevity? Business growth? Better family connection? Get specific.
Reframe your tasks. Rename them to reflect their real importance. Example:
Workout → Life Extension Modality
Sleep → 24-Hour Recovery Cycle
Date Night → Marriage Equity Growth
Family Dinner → Generational Alignment Hour
Use a star rating system. Add 1–5 stars next to each task to show how closely it connects to your ultimate goals.
When my client saw “Life Extension Modality ★★★★★” on his calendar, it was much harder to skip. He could clearly see the connection between today’s habit and tomorrow’s results.
Why Consistency Feels Boring
After nearly two decades of self-development, I’ve learned this: it’s boring. Once you move past the excitement of new coaches, books, or strategies, you’re left with the basics—eat well, train, sleep, read, keep learning, repeat.
Consistency isn’t about doing something until you “master” it. It’s about doing it for life. You don’t master leadership and take a break. You don’t grow your business once and coast forever. Success is a daily practice.
That’s why consistency matters more than motivation. When you reframe your habits and connect them to your bigger purpose, you’ll stop skipping them. And over time, those boring habits compound into extraordinary results.
Try harder. Stay consistent.
Time-Stamped Show Notes
00:30 – Why boring habits are the foundation of success
01:15 – Coaching story: entrepreneur struggling with workouts
02:05 – The reframe: “workout” → Life Extension Modality
03:00 – How connecting habits to goals changes behavior
03:45 – Adding the star rating system for accountability
04:35 – More reframe examples: sleep, meal prep, date night
05:25 – Why consistency feels boring after years of practice
06:15 – The truth about mastery and lifelong habits
07:10 – How reframes keep you motivated long-term
08:00 – Final thoughts: consistency as the ultimate advantage
