Summary

two stories. one, freshman year ROTC, a pledging situation involving a loaded 9mm and a lot of pressure I had no business handling. I felt almost no stress. why? I knew how to disassemble and reassemble that pistol cold. preparation killed the stress.

two, year one of entrepreneurship. one week I made $200 total. I was terrified. not because of the pistol situation, because I genuinely didn’t know what to do next. the unknown was the actual stressor.

1. pressure is when the stakes are high. stress is when you don’t know what to do under that pressure. preparation collapses stress, not pressure.

2. seek help. get a coach, a mentor, a friend who’s been there. when you don’t know what to do, the fastest way out is borrowing someone else’s knowing.

3. reflect for perspective. look at what you’ve already gotten through. the bank account, the fight, the situation a year ago that you don’t even think about now. proof you do hard things.

4. find the missing piece. stress is almost always a sign that there’s a specific thing you don’t know, don’t have, or haven’t decided. name it. small action. repeat.

you’ll be stressed again. the question is whether you have the framework to convert it into action faster every time. try harder.

Transcript

introduction to the concept of better human business and the importance of continual self-improvement in business scaling and personal growth

The most impactful business is the business that genuinely improves another human, a better human business. And to grow a business like this, you have to continually improve yourself. This podcast is a documentation of that thesis, scaling businesses and also personal growth. My goal is for you to shortcut this journey.

So if you’re ready to try hard, subscribe. If you like what you’re hearing, please share and enjoy. How do you handle stress and how do you handle pressure and what perspective do you have on these things? This is a better human business podcast. I’m Jerred Moon. And today I want to talk a little bit more about pressure, perspective, stress, anxiety, how to handle these things, and ways that you need to recognize who you actually are, what you’ve achieved, and how these things are going to help you out.

The further you push into life, the further you push into hard things. So I’m going to start with a story. I don’t think I’ve ever told this story publicly before. And it’s 100% true story. And it’s a little bit crazy, but I’ll share it anyway. I didn’t think it was crazy, as crazy at the time when it was happening.

encouragement to subscribe and share if enjoying the content; introduction to the episode’s focus on handling stress, pressure, and anxiety

But the more I look back at it, the more insane it seems. So flashback to my freshman year of college. All I wanted to do was be in the military. A lot of people, they come from like a sports family or an academic family. And I would consider my family right now with my boys and my girl that we have like a sports family.

I would consider my brother and I a military family. Like we played sports and we did things, but I just feel like deep down, we always knew we were going to serve in the United States military and we both did. That’s what we did. We had sports that we did and all those kinds of things. But growing up, we’d put on my dad’s BDUs, take BB guns out to the woods and we pretend we were in war.

That’s what we did. So that was the only thing we knew for certain is that we were going to be in the military. And so when I joined ROTC, I was in college, I knew I wanted to be an officer. I was just going to do it to the best of my ability. And what I ended up doing in ROTC, there’s ROTC, different ROTC for every branch of the service.

jerred shares a personal story from his freshman year of college related to his military aspirations and an intense experience during rotc

And I was in Air Force ROTC because I wanted to be a fighter pilot. And within ROTC, they have these, let’s call them military fraternities. I’m not going to name any of the names of these organizations because of the story that I’m about to tell could give a bad representation and it absolutely should not reflect on any of these organizations.

But basically, let’s just call it a military fraternity. Most people understand what a fraternity is for the most part. So I was more or less pledging one of these fraternities. It’s nothing like pledging an actual fraternity. A lot less drinking, a lot more physical exercise, just as much hazing, if not more, on the military side as I was going through this.

So it’s freshman year and we are at a party and we’re in this pledge state. Again, we didn’t call it pledging. I’m just trying to help people understand for kind of the fraternity aspect. We’re at this party and there’s three of us and two active duty service members show up. They’ve been drinking quite a bit and they were operators, special operations, both of them.

explanation of military fraternities within rotc and jerred’s experience pledging, leading to a high-pressure situation involving firearms

And again, I’m not going to say the branch of the service because, again, I don’t want to give reflect poorly on any branch of the service or any special operations unit because I don’t think these gentlemen necessarily reflected what is what I’ve seen in people I’ve worked with. But what happened was the one of the guys, one of the operators, he had two firearms.

He had a 9mm pistol and he had a .50 caliber Desert Eagle, which is an insane pistol. And they have us stand at the position of attention and I’m already like, oh gosh, like alcohol and guns, not a great combo. And I don’t know if the guns are loaded, not loaded. I can’t tell. My assumption is that they’re not loaded because they’re just out of party and they have some guns, right?

And what then happens next is the one of the dudes, the guy who has the weapons says, I want you to take this 9mm apart and put it back together in less than 60 seconds. Or he said that he wants to volunteer for that. And I had actually practiced this quite a bit already with my brother. Again, like I said, I came from a military family.

details of a potentially dangerous situation involving alcohol, firearms, and the pressure to disassemble and reassemble a 9mm pistol under duress

I don’t know why we practice that. Just watching military movies and stuff. I thought we thought having to take apart a gun and put it back together was going to be part of something we had to do. So I already knew how to do that and I had done it for time, for fun. I had done those kind of things before.

And so I immediately volunteered because the other people who were standing there with me had no idea how to take apart a 9mm firearm and put it back together. So I volunteered for it and he threw the gun on the ground, which immediately I was like, okay, this thing can’t be loaded. He had me, basically I had to get on my knees and get it, get ready to do it.

He was going to time it. And so the other operator stands there with a stopwatch and then he pulls out the Desert Eagle and points it straight at my head. So he’s holding a gun straight to my head. Again, my assumption is that this gun is not loaded. I’m just like, this is just an exercise, like whatever.

reflection on the lack of stress felt during the situation due to preparedness and practice

This is just what’s happening where everything’s fine. But it’s pressure. I’m feeling, feeling some pressure. I have an unknown loaded or unloaded gun pointed at my head, 9mm on the ground in front of me. I’m on my knees getting ready to go. And so then he says go, starts the clock. I completely dismantle the 9mm and I put it back together.

And I don’t know, I think it took me like less than 20 seconds to do that. Took the weapon apart, put it back together. And then from there, I did it. And under the 60 seconds, there was no further test. He just laughed it off, holstered his Desert Eagle firearm, took the 9mm away. They laughed like it was a big joke and they went about their way.

And the reason I’m telling that story is because that probably should have been one of the most high stress moments ever, having a gun pointed at your head. To this day, I don’t know if that gun was loaded or not loaded. I never got the full story on that and I wasn’t going to ask him. But in that moment, I felt pressure, but I wasn’t that stressed.

contrast with the stress of early entrepreneurship and the realization of financial pressures, highlighting the difference between knowing what to do and feeling lost

I just wasn’t actually that stressed out. And it’s not because I have ice running through my veins or anything like that. It’s because I knew exactly what to do. I’d practiced it. I’d practiced it hundreds of times. Like I knew, like when he said 60 seconds, I was like, dude, challenge me, this is going to be easy.

That’s what I’m thinking in my head. I’m like, I could take this thing apart, put it back together, blindfolded faster in less time than 60 seconds. So anyway, I was so prepared for that somehow, just by chance, that I wasn’t that stressed out. I was like, this is going to be easy. Save us from having to do a bunch of PT because he obviously wasn’t going to kill me, right?

I think he was just trying to add that pressure element, dangerous nonetheless, but still trying to add that pressure element. And we probably would have had to do a bunch of physical exercise if we didn’t, if I didn’t get in 60 seconds. That was all I thought was on the line, which isn’t the end of the world, but I didn’t feel that stress in that moment.

discussion on the importance of perspective in handling stress and the role of experience in managing challenges

And I’ve thought about that moment. The reason I wasn’t stressed, partly because I was so young, right? I didn’t truly understand what was going on in the moment, but also I just knew what to do. I knew what to do. There wasn’t like, and they gave me like a longer timeframe than I felt like I’d ever needed.

So it just wasn’t a stressful thing for me. I just wasn’t stressed because I knew what to do. Now flash forward to my first year as being an entrepreneur, I’ll never forget. I kind of like decided, okay, I’m going full-time entrepreneur and Emily and I are in bed and I log into one of the payment processors or really the only payment processor and looked at how much money we’d made there at the end of the week.

And I had made $200, 200 bucks. I had a family of four. I made $200 in a week and I don’t know about your family, but $200 a week isn’t going to cut it. Right. That’s not going to cut it. Not now, not back then. And I’ll never forget. Emily wasn’t like mad or anything like that. She was just like, she said, what are you going to do about that?

three strategies for dealing with pressure and stress: seeking help through coaching or mentorship, gaining perspective through reflection, and recognizing the nature of stress to identify missing knowledge or actions

That’s all she said. She said, what are you going to do about that? And it just clicked. Okay. This is on me. I need to do it. But I had so much stress following that. Like how do I, how do I make more money? How do I make this work faster? Because it has to happen fast. And there was 10 times more stress in the subsequent days compared to a much more stressful situation where I, there was a lot of pressure, but basically no stress.

Now there was a lot of pressure and a lot of stress trying to figure out how to make more money. And the more I think about that situation, the reason it was that way is because I had no idea what to do. I literally didn’t know. Like sometimes people think having an online business is the easier option, right?

You could have a brick and mortar business where people can come into your business or you can have an online business and people are like, Oh wow, it must be nice just to turn on some ads and you get customers from anywhere in the world. I wish it were that easy. If I gave you a laptop and internet connection in 60 days, do you think you could match your income right now?

encouragement to actively address stress and pressure by identifying and filling knowledge gaps, taking one step at a time, and the importance of trying harder to overcome challenges

Not very many people have that skill. It’s a very hard skill to get, so it’s very challenging, a lot of stress, a lot of pressure. And the reason I had a lot of stress and the reason I had a lot of pressure is because I did not know what to do. So that’s a big difference here is there’s always going to be pressure in our lives.

There’s always going to be some stress, but how we perceive it is all about our perspective. If you know what to do, you know exactly what to do. You just have to do it. It’s just a hard thing. Just something you got to get through. That’s not that bad. There might still be stress. There still might be pressure, but at least you know what to do.

It’s when we really don’t know what to do that causes that anxiety, that real stress, that real pressure where we don’t know what to do with those feelings. We don’t know where to put it. So what do we do when we find ourselves in those situations? I have three things for you. The first thing, ask for help.

closing thoughts on acknowledging and addressing stress and anxiety through action and effort

Get a coach. Hire a coach. Get a mentor. Maybe you have to pay for one. Maybe you can get one for free. Maybe you can reach out. Find people who are doing what you want and ask them for help, however it can be. You’ve probably heard this before. Hire a coach. Get a mentor. The reason you hear it so much is because it’s so important, and the reason you need this person is because they can tell you what to do next.

If you know what to do next, it’s okay to feel the pressure. It’s okay to feel the stress, but you don’t need to get lost in it because you know what to do next when you have that person in your corner. That’s the first thing you need to do. Get somebody in your corner. The second thing you need to do, as you accomplish things, look back at what was hard for you and what’s hard now.

This gives you the perspective that you need to keep pressing forward and have some gratitude in the process, okay? Because back then when I look at that moment on the entrepreneurship side, I’m like, oh, it’s so clear what you needed to do. Took me a lot of bouncing around to find out what to do, and I didn’t go down to hire a coach or get a mentor right away.

That’s what I ended up doing, but it took me months to realize that, and so you have to look back at what was hard and what is hard now. It gives you perspective, helps you draw some lessons learned from your own life as opposed to always getting it from other places. So when you started your business, what was hard then compared to now?

You look back and you’re like, oh, man, I was so stressed about that thing, but that’s so easy that you just do X, Y, Z and problem solved. So look back frequently and have some gratitude. Gain some perspective on what you’ve accomplished. And the last thing is you need to recognize when you are in these pressure or stress situations and ask yourself, which one am I in?

Is it I feel the stress and I feel the pressure, I feel the anxiety, but I know what to do. If you know what to do, you shouldn’t stress that much, okay? Like it’s okay to feel it, but know that you’re going to get out on the other side unscathed because you know what to do. But when you feel those really stressful pressure situations, ask yourself why you feel the pressure or stress and what is the missing piece that could solve this puzzle?

Because if we were to just stop sometimes when we are really stressed or we are really pressured and just be like, okay, why? Why am I feeling this way? What is it? A lot of times it’s because you don’t actually know what to do. You don’t know what the step is, the next step. And so you either need to plan out exactly what that next step is.

And then even if you don’t, you’re not a hundred percent certain that like this will solve all the problems, just plan the next step and take that one. Then after you’ve taken that step, then plan the next step. It’s one step at a time, small baby steps to get through it. Or you hire somebody who knows exactly what to do and they can guide you through it.

But ultimately you always need to be looking for that missing piece. If there’s a ton of stress in your life, ton of pressure and you just feel like it’s getting out of control. This is the process I go through. I’m like, okay, I feel it. I recognize that I feel it, but I need to, I need to find out why.

What’s the missing piece. There’s something missing that if I could just put it in place, I’m still going to have to do a lot of hard things, but I’m okay doing the hard things as long as I know that doing the hard things is going to lead to what I want. So that’s it. Look, you can sit and wallow in your stress and anxiety and act like you have a problem or a disorder.

And Hey, you, you might, but we all do it’s 2024 that’s happening to everyone. My advice and what I do is I do something about it. So I feel those feelings less, but to do something about it, you need to try harder. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. --- title: “Pressure and Perspective (How to Deal with Stress & Anxiety)” episode: 80 published: 2024-02-20 podcast: better. podcast tags: - betterpodcast ---

Pressure and Perspective (How to Deal with Stress & Anxiety)

Episode: 80 Published: 2024-02-20 Podcast: better. podcast

#betterpodcast

In this episode, Jerred Moon delves into handling stress and pressure through the lens of personal experience and practical advice. He shares a gripping story from his college days in ROTC, where he faced a high-pressure situation involving firearms, and contrasts it with the stress of his early entrepreneurial journey. Jerred emphasizes the importance of preparation and knowing what to do as key factors in managing stress effectively. He introduces a three-step approach to handling stress: seeking help from mentors, reflecting on past challenges to gain perspective, and identifying missing pieces in stressful situations to find solutions.

Key takeaways: - Jerred recounts a high-pressure situation from his ROTC days where his preparation allowed him to remain calm despite the potential danger. - He contrasts this with the stress of making only $200 in a week during his first year as an entrepreneur, highlighting the anxiety of not knowing what to do. - The core difference between pressure and stress is whether you know what to do; preparation reduces stress even in high-pressure situations. - Jerred advises seeking help from mentors or coaches to gain clarity and direction when facing stress. - Reflecting on past challenges and accomplishments can provide valuable perspective and gratitude, helping to manage current stress. - Identifying the missing piece in stressful situations and taking small, actionable steps can alleviate anxiety and lead to solutions.

The most impactful business is the business that genuinely improves another human, a better human business. And to grow a business like this, you have to continually improve yourself. This podcast is a documentation of that thesis, scaling businesses and also personal growth. My goal is for you to shortcut this journey.

So if you’re ready to try hard, subscribe. If you like what you’re hearing, please share and enjoy. How do you handle stress and how do you handle pressure and what perspective do you have on these things? This is a better human business podcast. I’m Jerred Moon. And today I want to talk a little bit more about pressure, perspective, stress, anxiety, how to handle these things, and ways that you need to recognize who you actually are, what you’ve achieved, and how these things are going to help you out.

The further you push into life, the further you push into hard things. So I’m going to start with a story. I don’t think I’ve ever told this story publicly before. And it’s 100% true story. And it’s a little bit crazy, but I’ll share it anyway. I didn’t think it was crazy, as crazy at the time when it was happening.

But the more I look back at it, the more insane it seems. So flashback to my freshman year of college. All I wanted to do was be in the military. A lot of people, they come from like a sports family or an academic family. And I would consider my family right now with my boys and my girl that we have like a sports family.

I would consider my brother and I a military family. Like we played sports and we did things, but I just feel like deep down, we always knew we were going to serve in the United States military and we both did. That’s what we did. We had sports that we did and all those kinds of things. But growing up, we’d put on my dad’s BDUs, take BB guns out to the woods and we pretend we were in war.

That’s what we did. So that was the only thing we knew for certain is that we were going to be in the military. And so when I joined ROTC, I was in college, I knew I wanted to be an officer. I was just going to do it to the best of my ability. And what I ended up doing in ROTC, there’s ROTC, different ROTC for every branch of the service.

And I was in Air Force ROTC because I wanted to be a fighter pilot. And within ROTC, they have these, let’s call them military fraternities. I’m not going to name any of the names of these organizations because of the story that I’m about to tell could give a bad representation and it absolutely should not reflect on any of these organizations.

But basically, let’s just call it a military fraternity. Most people understand what a fraternity is for the most part. So I was more or less pledging one of these fraternities. It’s nothing like pledging an actual fraternity. A lot less drinking, a lot more physical exercise, just as much hazing, if not more, on the military side as I was going through this.

So it’s freshman year and we are at a party and we’re in this pledge state. Again, we didn’t call it pledging. I’m just trying to help people understand for kind of the fraternity aspect. We’re at this party and there’s three of us and two active duty service members show up. They’ve been drinking quite a bit and they were operators, special operations, both of them.

And again, I’m not going to say the branch of the service because, again, I don’t want to give reflect poorly on any branch of the service or any special operations unit because I don’t think these gentlemen necessarily reflected what is what I’ve seen in people I’ve worked with. But what happened was the one of the guys, one of the operators, he had two firearms.

He had a 9mm pistol and he had a .50 caliber Desert Eagle, which is an insane pistol. And they have us stand at the position of attention and I’m already like, oh gosh, like alcohol and guns, not a great combo. And I don’t know if the guns are loaded, not loaded. I can’t tell. My assumption is that they’re not loaded because they’re just out of party and they have some guns, right?

And what then happens next is the one of the dudes, the guy who has the weapons says, I want you to take this 9mm apart and put it back together in less than 60 seconds. Or he said that he wants to volunteer for that. And I had actually practiced this quite a bit already with my brother. Again, like I said, I came from a military family.

I don’t know why we practice that. Just watching military movies and stuff. I thought we thought having to take apart a gun and put it back together was going to be part of something we had to do. So I already knew how to do that and I had done it for time, for fun. I had done those kind of things before.

And so I immediately volunteered because the other people who were standing there with me had no idea how to take apart a 9mm firearm and put it back together. So I volunteered for it and he threw the gun on the ground, which immediately I was like, okay, this thing can’t be loaded. He had me, basically I had to get on my knees and get it, get ready to do it.

He was going to time it. And so the other operator stands there with a stopwatch and then he pulls out the Desert Eagle and points it straight at my head. So he’s holding a gun straight to my head. Again, my assumption is that this gun is not loaded. I’m just like, this is just an exercise, like whatever.

This is just what’s happening where everything’s fine. But it’s pressure. I’m feeling, feeling some pressure. I have an unknown loaded or unloaded gun pointed at my head, 9mm on the ground in front of me. I’m on my knees getting ready to go. And so then he says go, starts the clock. I completely dismantle the 9mm and I put it back together.

And I don’t know, I think it took me like less than 20 seconds to do that. Took the weapon apart, put it back together. And then from there, I did it. And under the 60 seconds, there was no further test. He just laughed it off, holstered his Desert Eagle firearm, took the 9mm away. They laughed like it was a big joke and they went about their way.

And the reason I’m telling that story is because that probably should have been one of the most high stress moments ever, having a gun pointed at your head. To this day, I don’t know if that gun was loaded or not loaded. I never got the full story on that and I wasn’t going to ask him. But in that moment, I felt pressure, but I wasn’t that stressed.

I just wasn’t actually that stressed out. And it’s not because I have ice running through my veins or anything like that. It’s because I knew exactly what to do. I’d practiced it. I’d practiced it hundreds of times. Like I knew, like when he said 60 seconds, I was like, dude, challenge me, this is going to be easy.

That’s what I’m thinking in my head. I’m like, I could take this thing apart, put it back together, blindfolded faster in less time than 60 seconds. So anyway, I was so prepared for that somehow, just by chance, that I wasn’t that stressed out. I was like, this is going to be easy. Save us from having to do a bunch of PT because he obviously wasn’t going to kill me, right?

I think he was just trying to add that pressure element, dangerous nonetheless, but still trying to add that pressure element. And we probably would have had to do a bunch of physical exercise if we didn’t, if I didn’t get in 60 seconds. That was all I thought was on the line, which isn’t the end of the world, but I didn’t feel that stress in that moment.

And I’ve thought about that moment. The reason I wasn’t stressed, partly because I was so young, right? I didn’t truly understand what was going on in the moment, but also I just knew what to do. I knew what to do. There wasn’t like, and they gave me like a longer timeframe than I felt like I’d ever needed.

So it just wasn’t a stressful thing for me. I just wasn’t stressed because I knew what to do. Now flash forward to my first year as being an entrepreneur, I’ll never forget. I kind of like decided, okay, I’m going full-time entrepreneur and Emily and I are in bed and I log into one of the payment processors or really the only payment processor and looked at how much money we’d made there at the end of the week.

And I had made $200, 200 bucks. I had a family of four. I made $200 in a week and I don’t know about your family, but $200 a week isn’t going to cut it. Right. That’s not going to cut it. Not now, not back then. And I’ll never forget. Emily wasn’t like mad or anything like that. She was just like, she said, what are you going to do about that?

That’s all she said. She said, what are you going to do about that? And it just clicked. Okay. This is on me. I need to do it. But I had so much stress following that. Like how do I, how do I make more money? How do I make this work faster? Because it has to happen fast. And there was 10 times more stress in the subsequent days compared to a much more stressful situation where I, there was a lot of pressure, but basically no stress.

Now there was a lot of pressure and a lot of stress trying to figure out how to make more money. And the more I think about that situation, the reason it was that way is because I had no idea what to do. I literally didn’t know. Like sometimes people think having an online business is the easier option, right?

You could have a brick and mortar business where people can come into your business or you can have an online business and people are like, Oh wow, it must be nice just to turn on some ads and you get customers from anywhere in the world. I wish it were that easy. If I gave you a laptop and internet connection in 60 days, do you think you could match your income right now?

Not very many people have that skill. It’s a very hard skill to get, so it’s very challenging, a lot of stress, a lot of pressure. And the reason I had a lot of stress and the reason I had a lot of pressure is because I did not know what to do. So that’s a big difference here is there’s always going to be pressure in our lives.

There’s always going to be some stress, but how we perceive it is all about our perspective. If you know what to do, you know exactly what to do. You just have to do it. It’s just a hard thing. Just something you got to get through. That’s not that bad. There might still be stress. There still might be pressure, but at least you know what to do.

It’s when we really don’t know what to do that causes that anxiety, that real stress, that real pressure where we don’t know what to do with those feelings. We don’t know where to put it. So what do we do when we find ourselves in those situations? I have three things for you. The first thing, ask for help.

Get a coach. Hire a coach. Get a mentor. Maybe you have to pay for one. Maybe you can get one for free. Maybe you can reach out. Find people who are doing what you want and ask them for help, however it can be. You’ve probably heard this before. Hire a coach. Get a mentor. The reason you hear it so much is because it’s so important, and the reason you need this person is because they can tell you what to do next.

If you know what to do next, it’s okay to feel the pressure. It’s okay to feel the stress, but you don’t need to get lost in it because you know what to do next when you have that person in your corner. That’s the first thing you need to do. Get somebody in your corner. The second thing you need to do, as you accomplish things, look back at what was hard for you and what’s hard now.

This gives you the perspective that you need to keep pressing forward and have some gratitude in the process, okay? Because back then when I look at that moment on the entrepreneurship side, I’m like, oh, it’s so clear what you needed to do. Took me a lot of bouncing around to find out what to do, and I didn’t go down to hire a coach or get a mentor right away.

That’s what I ended up doing, but it took me months to realize that, and so you have to look back at what was hard and what is hard now. It gives you perspective, helps you draw some lessons learned from your own life as opposed to always getting it from other places. So when you started your business, what was hard then compared to now?

You look back and you’re like, oh, man, I was so stressed about that thing, but that’s so easy that you just do X, Y, Z and problem solved. So look back frequently and have some gratitude. Gain some perspective on what you’ve accomplished. And the last thing is you need to recognize when you are in these pressure or stress situations and ask yourself, which one am I in?

Is it I feel the stress and I feel the pressure, I feel the anxiety, but I know what to do. If you know what to do, you shouldn’t stress that much, okay? Like it’s okay to feel it, but know that you’re going to get out on the other side unscathed because you know what to do. But when you feel those really stressful pressure situations, ask yourself why you feel the pressure or stress and what is the missing piece that could solve this puzzle?

Because if we were to just stop sometimes when we are really stressed or we are really pressured and just be like, okay, why? Why am I feeling this way? What is it? A lot of times it’s because you don’t actually know what to do. You don’t know what the step is, the next step. And so you either need to plan out exactly what that next step is.

And then even if you don’t, you’re not a hundred percent certain that like this will solve all the problems, just plan the next step and take that one. Then after you’ve taken that step, then plan the next step. It’s one step at a time, small baby steps to get through it. Or you hire somebody who knows exactly what to do and they can guide you through it.

But ultimately you always need to be looking for that missing piece. If there’s a ton of stress in your life, ton of pressure and you just feel like it’s getting out of control. This is the process I go through. I’m like, okay, I feel it. I recognize that I feel it, but I need to, I need to find out why.

What’s the missing piece. There’s something missing that if I could just put it in place, I’m still going to have to do a lot of hard things, but I’m okay doing the hard things as long as I know that doing the hard things is going to lead to what I want. So that’s it. Look, you can sit and wallow in your stress and anxiety and act like you have a problem or a disorder.

And Hey, you, you might, but we all do it’s 2024 that’s happening to everyone. My advice and what I do is I do something about it. So I feel those feelings less, but to do something about it, you need to try harder. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.